Practical ways to deal with rejection

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Rejection. You’ve got to deal with it. Becoming an adult means leaving the protective bosom of home and parents and coming face to face with the real world. And the truth is, not everyone is going to think you’re the greatest thing since sliced bread. It’s no fun, and if you don’t develop the right coping strategies, it can be downright dangerous for your wellbeing as you try to plot a path through life that makes sense for you.

So, whether it’s not getting quite the grades you need to get you on that University course you wanted, failure to land a dream job, or getting dumped by the love of your life, the most important thing is to learn how to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and crack on. Here are some tips on how to do just that.

1. Don’t let the bastards grind you down

Of course, rejection can be devastating, but never allow it to get to you. You’re going to get emotional, assuming you’re human, but sitting around crying into your tea won’t help, In fact, it might make matters worse.  Don’t be afraid to seek help, If you have an ambition and haven’t been able to fulfil it just yet, speak to someone; a counselor or a careers advisor, and get some tips on what you’re doing wrong and how to make it right, Basically, just take the initiative to give yourself every chance that past rejection is not repeated.

2. The world is not against you

Wallowing in self-pity is a recipe for disaster. And it will probably lead you to indulge in some reckless behaviour; be it too much drinking or worse. Don’t end up looking like a train wreck or waking up next to someone whose name you can’t remember. Nirvana is not to be found at the bottom of a bottle.  Instead, check out some positive distractions like sports or Yoga. At best you’ll have a much tighter summer body and at worst you’ll be healthier and in a positive frame of mind when facing new relationships, making new friends, and yes, going out to party.

3. We all love distractions

Rejection is tough; we get it. It’s important to take some time to think about why it happened and to grieve for your loss or failure. But don’t let it go on for too long. After all, no one died. Think about the things you love to do; whether it’s going to the cinema or playing video games and just use those to distract your mind. It will help to reawaken your life and bring out the gusto in you.

4. Sometimes it’s just not meant to be

No matter how much you’ve set your heart on something, or someone and no matter how hard you try, it’s just not going to happen. You haven’t done anything wrong, in fact, you’re probably done everything right. But it’s just not the right time, the right place, or the right circumstances. Learning to accept this will help you avoid feeling down in the dumps for too long.

5. Stay positive

Even rejection can have its positive sides. Really, it can. Trust us. You might feel terrible but you’re still in control of what you do next. Stay positive and remember that there are people in your life who really love and care about you. Stay close to them and you’ll soon be ready to take on the world again.

6. Take care of yourself

When we fail or lose, and our self-esteem takes a battering, it’s good to step away from it all. Take a break. After all, you are your best friend and no one can treat you better than yourself. So, go on holiday, or visit a spa and have a good massage. Go out for a great meal. Take it easy, recharge, and have some fun!

7. Make a new plan

So plan A didn’t quite work out as planned. What about Plan B, or Plan C for that matter. Whether the rejection is work or relationship related, you can always go back to the drawing board. Rethinking your life goals is a good thing to do anyway helping you stay focused on finding the path to achieving your goals.

Bottom line

Rejection is one of life’s challenges. It’s going to happen.  It is how we deal with it that will determine its impact on our lives. Hopefully, we’ve been able to give you some useful tips to make dealing with rejection less difficult than it needs to be.